Everyone has days where they feel that their life is just a mess and where they feel that they cannot do anything right. But when you are always feeling insecure and you feel that nothing is ever right, this can cause you to have stress and negativity in your life.
When you do not feel that you are good enough, this can be bad for your relationships and cause you to feel anxious and upset. This can make you feel jealous at the drop of the hat and when you are lacking self-esteem, you will not be able to feel satisfied or to satisfy your partner.
The great thing though is that you can build your self-esteem. You can do things that can make you have a better mindset and helps you to feel better about yourself.
Value
Look at the things that you are good at and the things you do right. Maybe you are not looking at the positive things about yourself and the good things you do each day.
Remember how much you helped your friend or how you were able to come up with a great idea during your meeting. Learn to focus on the things you are good at instead of what you are not good at.
Needs
Instead of always looking at the needs of everyone else and forgetting your own needs, begin to concentrate more on yourself. Learn to have self-care and to get rid of negative thoughts and feelings.
Here are some ways you can improve your self-care:
- Go to the spa.
- Get a facial.
- Workout each day.
- Take a break from the phone or social media.
- Eat healthy.
- Talk kindly to yourself.
Making sure that you are eating right and that you are sleeping well can help to boost your self-esteem.
Awkwardness
There will be times in your life where things are hard and where you feel uncomfortable in your own skin. It is okay to be awkward and to be embarrassed or shy about things. Learn to laugh at this instead of being upset.
Negative Thoughts
When you make mistakes, you have to stop beating yourself up over it. Get rid of the negative talk that brings shame and self-hate.
Here are some ways you can get rid of your negative thoughts:
- Forgive yourself.
- Learn to write down the negative feelings and thoughts that you have.
- Know how to change these thoughts to positive thoughts.
Love
Take time to be around people that love and support you. Let them build up your self-confidence and make you feel accepted.
Have plans with these people for dinner or for coffee. Go to their house and invite them over. Look in the eyes of people that love and appreciate you and know that it is because of who you are.
Trouble
Think about the biggest times that you feel insecure and tell yourself what was going on at this time. When you can realize these situations and realize that they are just part of life, you can avoid them and try to do something different.
Do not be around people that point out your flaws or those that treat you with no respect.
Good
Celebrate the success that you have and talk yourself up when you do something good. Be proud of yourself. Even if it feels weird to be proud of yourself, do it.
Remind yourself of the good things that you do and have confidence in yourself. Here are some ways to do that:
- Write down the compliments people give you.
- Write down things you have accomplished.
- Make a list about yourself that is good.
Joy
Do things in your free time that you love to do. Find things that give you feelings of happiness such as reading a good book or cooking a meal.
Learn a new hobby or skill that makes you smile. Instead of worrying about mastering the skill, learn to have fun and do things that you are interested in.
Small Steps
Know that building your self-esteem will not happen overnight. Do not get upset if you get frustrated or if you make a mistake.
If you are not confident today, take steps to be confident the next day. Keep working and moving forward.
Therapist
Look for a therapist or counselor that you can talk to. Tell them about your fears and what makes you feel so insecure. Let them help you to understand where you are coming from and to develop tools to become more confident.
Read
Take time to read books that will help to give you good advice and to build your confidence. There are many books on the subject, find some good ones to read.
Self-Talk
Learn to have a positive mindset and to have positive self-talk. Be productive in what you say and say things that encourage you.
Find books that can help you to celebrate who you are and what strengths you have. If you do not know what your worth is, read books that can allow you to be kind and gentle with yourself.
Learn to recognize things from your past that might be holding you back and causing you to have low self-esteem. Write these things down so that you can create a positive self-image.
Conclusion
Everyone is insecure from time to time but if you have this feeling often and ignore it, it can impact your life. Learn to build your self-esteem and learn to get the support that you need from those around you that can help you to feel better.
